Too. Much. Stuff.

I’ve been trying to simplify our house and my lifestyle. I’m using every tool I can find to help me do it. Flylady is one of them. They encourage you to make your changes one small step at a time. Instead of trying to make giant, crashing (and usually crushing) changes in your life, start with one small thing and try to make a habit of it.

One thing I read on the site was “Do you hate putting your clothes away after doing the laundry? Is it because your drawers and closet are so full nothing else will fit?” That rang like a bell inside my head. I do and they are. I cleaned out a couple of my drawers for my 10 minute tasks. My clothes are scrunched. I can see what I have and I have room to put stuff away.

Genius. Ours has been a consumer society for way too long. The heck with that. It’s wasteful on every scale, from global to single household. I think I need to redefine ‘need.’ I can tell you one thing for sure. I do not need any more shorts or t-shirts. The old ones are getting made into rugs and the seldom worn are going to charity.

I don’t do everything the Flyladiessay and the religious content, although it’s certainly non-denominational, leaves me cold, but I do try to take hold of that one small change and keep working at it until it’s a habit. Things aren’t perfect, and never will be. But I’m a couple of small changes better than I was a couple of months ago. And it’s amazing how much better that makes me feel.

Don’t beat yourself up about what you woulda, shoulda, coulda done and spend 10 minutes cleaning off your desk/kitchen table/nightstand.

And once you get used the idea that you can change things by starting small you start to see all the other places that this principle will apply. Finances? Do I really need a soda every day with lunch? No. If I bring lunch to work even a couple of times a week I can save $10 to $15.

There have got to be other places I can apply this. I think I’ll go find out.

I’m lucky?

I’m lucky.
I’m almost 53 years old and this is the first really important death in my life.

Really. I know I’m lucky.
But nothing prepares you for this. I’ve seen it on the horizon for quite a while now.

But, like watching a train wreck in slow motion, even though you know what’s coming, it just doesn’t prepare you for the awfulness of the situation.

You know it’s coming. You know it’s going to hurt. Sometimes you can see which limb will be torn from limb.

Doesn’t help. Hurts more. You feel like if you knew what was coming, you should have been able to stop it.

You can’t. Life is life. It’s a cycle. It is the way it is. Until our sun burns out, we are part of this planet. That comforts me. It’s not eternal, but it’s a really long time.

And while I’m grateful that life is good here on our wonderful planet, there’s still a Dad-sized hole in my world, impossible to fill.

Amazon is wonderful

So.

My computer died. 

Now, do I get the software I bought over the past 15 months back?  Or do I have to buy it again.  I really really don’t have the money to buy CS4 again.  Or another version of MS Office.  I bought Office because I need it for work.  My employer really doesn’t have the money to buy me Office, but I really need one to be able to even open work files at home.

Chit.  Not at all sure how this is going to play out. 

Amazon. I really love buying stuff from Amazon.  I can look back in my purchase history and see what I bought and when I bought it.  Is it still under warranty or not?  I can see that.  I’ll buy more stuff from Amazon just because I’m pretty sure they’ll support what I’ve got.

Amazon resonds. Sony, oh, hell, you don’t want to have to call Sony. Good luck to you if you need to call them. You’ll get a computer generated voice from an English as a second language speaker. Good luck getting help from that. It’s a flippin’ cliche and there’s a damn good reason for that.

With Amazon, I get what I’ve bought. If I buy a book. It’s mine. No matter when or what the platform.

I’ve had issues with a point and shoot camera that I bought several years ago. Amazon had my purchase history and I could see that the camera company needed to work with me.

With Amazon, I know what I’ve bought and when I bought it. I don’t think I’ve ever spoken with an Amazon customer service person. And yet, I’m still happy with Amazon customer service. Kind of think that Sony. could benefit from lessons from Amazon. I no longer trust Sony